Dear friends- I am glad to be sending this, and yet embarrassed that I did not even let you know I had reach home safely, way back in December! Things were a little crazy, as I was in Alabama for just three days before heading overseas again to visit my parenst and two younger sisters for three weeks. I returned just over two weeks ago and jumped right back into school on the 11th. It seems sort of strange to begin my life as a student once again, and I feel as if my time in Chile was not like a trip, but rather, especially by the end of the four months, another life I led there, in a small rural town in the mountains of Chile, with my students, coworkers, family, and friends. While I hope I may one day return to everyone I grew to know and love in Gualliguaica, I do not know what the future will hold but am thankful that, in this day of technology, communication is more possible than in the past. During the five day debriefing in Santiago before returning to the States, our leaders led us through thoughts about our experiences, lessons, and applications. Through taking this time I have come to realize how important it can be to mull over and process events in our life. One of our leaders noted how, even when we look back and are disappointed over mistakes we have made or bad memories in general, it is so important not to waste the worst experiences, choosing not to remain bitter but to learn from it, and, if it was due to a personal fault, improve and be intentional in the future not to repeat it. The following are some of the categories we were encourage to process through- it is rather lengthy but was so helpful in my own processing of the past semester.
Best/Worst Ministry Experience
-best: teaching bible stories and songs to the students at school, and seeing professor rene be excited about learning and passing that onto the children.
-worst: failure to initiation bible study again. We had several, but then were interrupted by a national holiday and the next week no one showed up, and we did not start it back up again. I think this was because it was hard and uncomfortable, and I chose to stay more in my comfort zone. We didn’t want to make the women feel awkward by asking them again if they would like to be in a bible study, but now I wish I had stepped out and risked my self esteem and been bolder for the sake of the gospel.
Blessings
-living with our host family, Adelina and Orozimbo, and really getting to experience the ins and outs of their life- bread making, goat milking (and killing), sewing, feeding the chickens, grandchildren (atleast two dozen), soccer games, dancing, matte (biter-tea)-drinking, and more. Adelina really became my Chilean grandmother it seems, and really took us under her wing, and it was such a comfort to always have her there, food in hand, with a hug a kiss and a smile waiting.
-supervisors and their family. We did not see them every week, but the time we did spent with them was refreshing, and they frequently opened their house to us, feeding us, letting us use their US phone, enduring me playing the piano, borrowing from their splendid library of books, spending time with their daughters, and goofing around with their young boys. They were a great foundation and were just full of knowledge about Chilean culture, and were so patient and understanding, and so invaluable to our entire experience.
-teammates- the opportunity to live with Jenny, and interact frequently with the three other ‘northern chile girls’, from texas, s.c., and Oklahoma. Our joyful reunions always brought encouragement and laughs along with adventures.
-friends in Gualliguaica- to hike with, go to the observatory, relax on the windy beach, teach some English, and offer helpful cultural insights and comments when we had problems or questions.
-the teachers in the school- Yenny and Sandra, the cook, and Margarita, and Tomas (who wore an FBI hat), and how inclusive they were in letting us join them as professional educators, despite my lack of training.
-the family of two of my students, the twin boys- whose mother was so friendly and really made us feel loved.
-at debriefing, getting to hear the stories of the other students who had been scatted throughout other countries in South America, and learning about their individual struggles and lessons and breakthroughs.
-the wonderful street music and endless dancing
-getting to try my hand at kitesurfing, just a little bit
-the wonderful, so abundant food
-learning how to milk goats
Cultural Lessons
-As I had heard, time and schedules were not so strict, and this took some real getting used to, and being honest I have to say that I have not yet perfected the joy of finding contentment wherever you are at the moment, without thinking of what you should be doing or will be doing next.
-With the loose time schedule comes the idea that people, and relationships, are a higher priority than efficiency or getting things done. As a university student, I would like to put this ideal in practice, though I am sure it will be seriously tested as tests and schoolwork increases. I am always reminded that have just one opportunity to do well in college, but what I often forget is that there are other one-time, relational opportunities that I do not want to miss-who knows when I may live with my sister again, or within just a few miles of my grandmother. Living in the small town highlighted for me the joy that can be found within families, and to treasure the steady companionship a family and local friends provide.
Challenges
-I learned quickly the challenges that come with living with another person, especially one you had never met before. Oftentimes I was convicted that, while I claimed to be seeking to love the Chileans, I would sometimes fail to love my own teammates as I should, and I realize it is sometimes hardest for me to love those who are most similar to me. Not only this, but it is often easy to love those you don’t know very well, because you don’t see their problems and struggles in life, and, upon knowing someone more deeply, the depth of your patience and love is tested. Also, I hope I more fully appreciate the joy of living with my sister, who knows me better than anyone and can read my thoughts and feelings at a glance.
- At times I found my faith questioned- and experienced the struggle of thinking ‘is what I’ve believed for so long really the truth?’, and ‘how do I know that this is true?’. I think this came some from letting myself be influenced by others, non believers around me, and, instead of going back to the truth, I began to doubt and struggle with even basic tenants of the Christian faith. Eventually, I realized that I can look back in my life, at what I have learned and knew to be true, no matter what others around me are saying, and can be encouraged and strengthened rather than defeated and doubtful.
-I realized my own pride, catching myself thinking I was better than another person and have been convicted in psalm 119, where it says ‘God rebukes the arrogant who are cursed, and who stray from his commands’.
Lessons
-Realization that so many times our original goal gets watered down, by time or challenges or weariness. Not sure how to combat this besides reviewing my goals and recommitting myself to them, and probably putting them on the bathroom mirror would help too.
-I also came to realize that so much of a person’s life is based on their own decisions. This should be obvious, I know, but for some reasons I seem really aware now that it is up to me how I spend my time, and what I make my priority. If I look back in the past months and years and regret not reading my bible more, or praying, or witnessing, or exercising, or eating healthy, or studying- the full gamut of activities, it is in my power, no one else’s, to change my habit and get my priorities straight.
-Rejoice!! I rejoice that Christianity is not a works based religion, for in looking back on my Chile trip, I am keenly aware of too many weaknesses and mistakes and sins, and would have no assurance if salvation if it was granted based only on good works, but because we are saved through grace, by faith in Christ, I can rejoice that, despite my weaknesses and failures, God is still all powerful and will carry out His will in Chile and in my life.
-My view of small towns has changed. I never thought I could enjoy living in a small, rural town of less than 300 people, but I now know what joy can be found living surrounded by family and friends, and rather than scorn or feel sorry for, I perhaps even envy those who do.
-I learned also about the mistake of forming a judgment on people too quickly, or on a first impression. I saw in at least two instances how my first opinion of someone turned out to be skewed, and also about looking for the best in someone, rather than being critical.
- I learned also about the importance of guarding your tongue- at all times. There is one particular instance where I really wish I hadn’t said something, but it was already said and heard, and I was reminded that guarding my tongue just 90% of the time isn’t enough, for even the other 10% can overshadow the other time and cause serious damage.
-My view of the Christian life has been simplified. Life as a whole in Gualliguaica was much simpler, which took some getting used to, but I realized also that the life of a Christian can be boiled down to a pretty simple standard- using each day’s decisions, both life-directing, and, more often- and even sometimes harder to do, with one goal in mind- to honor and obey God and love others. Even while coming back to a more hectic lifestyle, my life should still focus on these goals.
-How has my perspective on international missions changed? I now know first hand that it is no easy thing to make disciples of Jesus Christ, but sometimes requires long-term relationships with patience and perseverance. It does not just mean sharing the three step gospel plan, but may mean walking together with that person on life and always pointing them towards Christ along the way. I think this is very applicable as I return to my friends here, and remember not to get discouraged if someone hears the gospel but does not act on it immediately- for we also have to remember that it is God who may be working inwardly, and we should not judge our success or efforts but only what we can see on the outside, our job is to just remain faithful witnesses.
Also, while talking with one of the resident missionaries, I realize how hard it can be to be a missionary on the field, under the direction of leaders elsewhere. We were told that one of the main reasons missionaries often leave the field b/c of conflict within the organization. I learned that while one often prepares oneself for cultural hardships/frustrations, but there are the challenges of team interaction and submission to authority that are no easy matter, which I don’t think I had really considered a whole in my regards to being involved in missions organizations more in the future. Overall, one of the missionary mothers I talked to summed it up by saying ‘you just have to give up your own will and obey’.
-This is just a general statement from one of my teammates. ‘you can say no to some things because you have already said yes to better things’. This to me is a good reminder, as I often feel torn about how to spend my time- so often there are two or more possibilities, and unless I realize and act on my priorities I may neglect the better choice.
-another quote from a teammate, talking about showing love to those around us. “if that’s how __NAME___ feel’s loved, then do it”, just a good reminder to be aware of other people’s needs, and seeking to reach out to them in a way that would meet their specific needs and show them compassion and love.
-regarding praying for people’s salvation- ‘if I don’t pray for them, who will?’, I was convicted by this, thinking that, if I really believe that prayer is powerful and effective (james 5), then why would I ever neglect to pray?’.
-what have I learned about God? –despite our weaknesses, He is strong, and despite our failures, He is faithful. Our limited skills do not limit God- He can use us if we are just willing and obedient. Also, God was in gualliguaica before I came, during my trip, and remains present and active even now. I am not the focalpoint of His plan, rather He is the focal point and I had the opportunity to join Him there for a short time.
-what did I learn about the global church? One focus we had, initiated by our supervisor, centered around reproducibility, the importance of not starting anything that cannot be continue, and reproduce, even after you leave. Mainly this idea seeks to keep a local church from becoming dependant on other people/resources/ideas, and strives to put a new church in the hands of local believers and teach them how to reproduce and grow, without requiring input/money/manpower from, say, a church in America.
-Chile is no longer my mission field. Now my mission field is Auburn, Alabama.
My time in Chile will always be a part of who I am becoming, and I thank you for your part in that, writing and praying and encouraging. While thinking through some of these things has been time consuming or difficult, it has also been a joy, and I think helpful in recognizing all that God has taught me and helping me to apply what I have learned, and I sincerely recommend it to you, whether you have been traipsing the globe or remained at home, just taking a recent chunk of your life to look back on and think about, and hopefully you will be able to say ‘man, I’m sure glad I’m not the same person I used to be’, since we should be able to see how God is changing and molding us to be more like Him.
It would be a real joy for me to hear how God is teaching you, of your lessons and hardships and blessings, so do keep in touch, and thank you again for your prayers and encouragement.
-Rebecca